THE DELILAH STRATEGY:HOW TO KEEP YOUR HUSBAND

For years now many pulpiteers and preachers have condemned Delilah as a prostitute and the one responsible for the ruining of the great man Samson.Of course she did.But then, I have this question for them: What made Samson keep coming back to Delilah even though he knew she wanted to find out the secret of his strength?

Could it have been just sex? I doubt. This is because there were prostitutes that Samson slept with but still went away.Or could it be that Delilah was the most beautiful girl in Philistine? I doubt that too.

I personally think that Delilah knew HOW TO KEEP HER MAN AT HOME.How to make a man return back to her laps.

Here are few secrets I guessed she used and every woman can use to keep her man.IF A MAN IS UNFAITHFUL…THE WOMAN OBVIOUSLY HAS LOST GROUND AND HASN’T BEING DOING HER JOB WELL. Let me share with you some Strategies I feel can be of help.I call it….

DELILAH STRATEGIES:

DELILAH STRATEGY 1: SMELL GOOD; LOOK GOOD. Don’t dress in wrapper after you are married.When your husband comes back from work, what does he see? A woman wrapped like and old, worn out woman? But that is not what he sees at work on those lovely secretaries and co workers.

Don’t smell soup or smoke when he comes back from work.Smell good, romantic and be on your sexiest bump shot so that when he comes home, he wondering and staring at you.Prayer won’t keep your husband at home.This will!…prayers
come later on once you have done that.

DELILAH STRATEGY 2: COOK WELL. Your husband should WANT TO COME BACK HOME TO EAT YOUR MEALS.All that talk about the maid does that is foolish.After good sex, a good meal is what ANY MAN wants from his wife.Will your husband be able to call his friends over to his house to eat your meal? Sister, learn how to cook.Stop making excuses.

DELILAH STRATEGY 3: BE HIS NUMBER ONE ENCOURAGER: No one should praise your husband more than you.NO ONE.Let him know that you are his number one cheer leader.Ask him about his business.Don’t advice him, just listen to him. Listening is the biggest encouragement he can receive from you.

Tell him sometimes: “My lord, saviour of my body, the one who leads me…i admire you” Do you know that is scriptural?Submission is a charm. it activates love naturally.

Your husband is not your friend or partner, he is your Lord.Give him the honour.

DELILAH STRATEGY 4: GIVE HIM GOOD SEX. Let every sexual time be one he would remember. Read the book ART OF MARRIAGE by Tim Lahaye. It would be of great help. Don’t take your sexual lief for granted. Many do. I have talked with not less than 5 married men who complain about their wives inexperience and refusal to learn about sex.

Sex is an art.It can be learnt..but please do it in marriage. There is less guilt and you are on the side of God.God watches married people have sex.And he is disappointed when any of them goes away unfulfilled.He created it and believes that if we do it properly we can get it right.

All the best.

SIGNS YOU ARE STILL MISSING YOUR EX – AND HOW TO DEAL WITH IT!

1. SOCIAL MEDIA LASHING: You trash talk him on twitter and Facebook.

2. OVERDRESSING AND OVERCOMPENSATING:
You dress up in hopes you will run into him and when you do see him, you make your life seem really awesome..because, obviously, you are better off without him and he should see what you are missing!

Yet, you have got to realize what you are missing in making him the center of your life.

3. YOU COMPARE EVERYONE TO HIM:
Even if you think you are ready to start dating again, every time you meet a new guy, you make a list of all the ways he doesn’t measure up to your ex. Once you are really over him, you will measure men on their own merits.

4. YOU HAVE NO INTEREST IN THAT HOT DUDE GIVING YOU THE EYE:
You have men throwing themselves at you left and right, eager to love the pain away. When you ex calls, however, you pick up right away.

5. YOU STILL CYBER STALK HIM:
The other day you while you wandering about Facebook, you noticed that a cute girl had left a flirtatious message on your ex wall. So you attempted to hack into her Facebook account, and scoured the Facebook pages of your ex’s mom, sister and grand mother for even the subtlest mention of either you or a new romance. I want you to know: This is unhealthy…and possibly illegal.

6. YOU ARE STILL HAVING SEX WITH YOUR EX:
You still meet to have sex. Ex sex isn’t always a terrible idea..but it usually is. If you have recently broken up, you can’t have sex and expect that you won’t remain emotionally involved. So, straighten up.

7. YOU STILL HABOUR THE (NOT SO) SECRET FANTASY THAT THE TWO OF YOU STILL HAVE A FUTURE TOGETHER:
And this misguided belief is keeping you from living life or at least giving anyone new a chance to love you. While no one can really know what the future holds, it’s best to remember that break ups happen for a reason..And often, that reason was a good one. If you are holding back on your future, it is likely that you are stuck in the past.

Going through a terrible relationship break up can appear so crushing. You might believe you will never ever get over them. Or that your life will never be the same again. Although those feelings are very real in the first place, there is no reason to believe that you can’t get over it and move on.

Begin with closure.When a relationship comes to a horrible end, particularly if you are the one that was dumped just about all people need and require closure. This means that you have acknowledged the reality that relationship is over and you are ready to go on. You need to say it out loud and in your mind that the relationship is finished and believe it. If you believe there is a chance that you will get back together with your ex you will never be able to go on with your life.

SHOULD I ACCEPT HIS PROPOSAL?

GEORGE ESSIEN ANSWERS YOUR QUESTION 149

My name is Itoro Effiong. I’m through with with my University education and I am presently working.The person who proposed marriage to me is doing his NYSC and just got a scholarship to go abroad for his Masters.He insists he wants to get married to me before going abroad. I love him, though.The issue is that this guy was actually sponsored by my parents through his University education. My parents know that we are close but don’t know of his intention to marry me before he goes for his Masters.

Please advice me on the kind of decision to make. I want to know the kind of decision to make in this case. Should I accept his proposal for marriage or allow him to go and come back?

ANSWER:

It is obvious that he loves you and wants to give you assurance that he is yours. It all depends on how much you love him. You may proceed with the marriage. At the same time, you may wish to tell him that you would wait for him. Afterall, the Masters program will not go beyond 1 or 2 years.

So pray about it. Which ever decision you make will end up being good, especially when you are sure he is the kind of man that you would want to settle with. All the best.

THE BEST OF SINGLES’ QUOTES BY GEORGE ESSIEN – PART 1

(1.) When a woman becomes a wife in attitude and character,HER HUSBAND SHOWS UP.The reason why most women are not married on time is because they are not yet wives; they are still girls.

(2.) Men marry wives,but sleep with girls.

(3). Don’t marry from where you are coming from; marry from where you are going to

(4). Don’t ignore the signs.Address them quickly.
Confrontation reveals character.It is the platform for the display of emotional maturity

(5). Don’t marry a ‘dutiful’ wife…..marry A FRIEND.

(6). God tests every relationship at the point of its motive.

(7). She WON’T GROW SLIMMER in the future.If your preference is for slim,sleek ladies, go for that.And if it is for fat, round ladies,go for that.That lady won’t add weight in the future…In fact, LOOK AT HER MOTHER AND YOU CAN DETERMINE HOW SHE WOULD LOOK LIKE PHYSICALLY

(8). Don’t marry anyone if you are NOT PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED to the person.
Don’t spiritualize everything.Physical chemistry is important TOO

(9). DON’T pray in the same room with your fiance(e).That is not being spiritual.That is foolishness.You will end up both having sex!There is a thin line between SPIRITUALITY and SEXUALITY.Both are intercourse.

(10). Avoid dating people who want you to handle their emotional issues. The moment you send yourself on a rescue mission that relationship is doomed for failure.

(11).When a man marries a GOOD WIFE, he is very happy;
When he marries a BAD WIFE, HE BECOMES A PHILOSOPHER
Be careful who you marry.

(12).If you are a lady past 30 and now desperately moving from one singles program to the other, I really don’t pity you. Your husband showed up in your 20s but he didnt look like it and you ignored him.No pity, girl.

(13).A man can love a woman and not have sex with her; and yet not love a woman and still ‘enjoy’ sex with her.
Not so with a woman. Most women have sex with men they love; or have sex with a man and then expect the man to ‘love’ them.

(14).Love is not just a feeling, it is a knowledge; a knowledge that grows over time. Feelings fluctuate and are not too dependable.If you are ever in doubt whether you love that person, give it time.Time reveals true love

(15).Remember that WIFE means

W – Wonderful
I – Investment
F – For
E – Enjoyment

(16).SELFISHNESS from either one of the couple is responsible for any sour relationship. Wherever or whenever there is a break up or divorce,check closely PRIDE played a major role.

(17).People who have been hurt,hurt others.People who have been loved ,love others

(18).The THREAT and FEAR of break up is more tormenting than the ACTUAL break up

(19).It’s foolishness to disconnect from your friends because you are in a relationship with someone.If the person takes a walk,what would you do without your friends?Man looking at his girlfriend having a headache sitting at a tab

(20).When peace is replaced with doubt in your heart concerning that relationship,then God is saying something.It’s time to pause and think.

(21).Love means many things.But one thing I know love isn’t is that love isnt uncertain

(22).Some people don’t deserve the love you give them.Give no person your heart, only your head until you are married.

(23).Don’t run away from confrontation. A confrontation will give you revelation. To walk away or to continue becomes clearer. Too much quarrel that ends with physical abuse is a danger sign. It is saying , ‘Quit!’

(24).Young man, don’t marry a woman that cannot COOK.

THE BEST OF SINGLES’ QUOTES BY GEORGE ESSIEN – PART 1

GEORGE ESSIEN ANSWERS YOUR QUESTION 102

My name is Kehinde Ogunsola.I need your counsel.I have been dating this guy for 2 years when he recently proposed.I said yes.He has been so excited, he has been showing me around.Recently we met his friend who is suppose to be his best man.This friend of his was my ‘ex’ or sexual lover…He has threatened to expose me…i used to do terrible things in the past..things i am ashamed of telling…he said he wanted sex to keep quiet,under pressure at some point i gave in..Now he calls me for sex every now and then..I am confused what do i do?

ANSWER:
Confess the truth to your fiance…if he finds out it would be worst.Yes, he may break up with you…but then love may show up and he faces his friend or so called best man and tell him to back off,that he knows, and that he was stupid to try to blackmail you

GEORGE ESSIEN ANSWERS YOUR QUESTIONS 29

GEORGE ESSIEN ANSWERS YOUR QUESTIONS 29:

Hello, My name is Susan Umoh.2 Weeks ago my pastor called me to his office.He asked me whether i had any person in my life.I said yes.Well, he went ahead to tell me that he wanted me to meet a brother he felt would make a good husband for me.I met the man.Not a bad guy.But i don’t feel comfortable that my pastor would go ahead and encourage me to court someone he chooses even when I TOLD HIM ABOUT someone who was in life.I am confused.I don’t know what to do.Disobey my pastor?I sincerely respect him. or should I follow his advice?What is your take?

ANSWER:

My sister, be careful.While I understand that some pastors have their members best interest at heart,it is also worthy to note that some other pastors practice manipulation.It is a form of witchcraft.They control u.Be careful.Make your choice and live with the consequences.Your own consequences.THE WORST THING YOU WILL DO IS LIVE THE CONSEQUENCES OF SOME PASTOR’S CHOICE FOR YOU…Also understand that no matter how you love that pastor, he may not pastor u all your life.Research has it that the average christian these days would be pastored by at least 3 pastors in his or her life time.Also, u may leave his present location.But you will be married to that same man.Tell your pastor about how u feel.If he still insists, LEAVE HIS CHURCH.That is what i think.

GEORGE ESSIEN ANSWERS YOUR QUESTION 99

GEORGE ESSIEN ANSWERS YOUR QUESTIONS 99:

I’m a newly wed.My marriage is 3 months old to be precise.I feel like walking out of it.Is this how marriage is?I think I prefer Singlehood.I was engaged to my husband for just three months.He was very nice and gregarious.My pastor permitted us to go ahead.But today we are so distant.We have even stopped having sex regularly.I don’t know.How can you be of help?My name is Deborah Ubong.

ANSWER:

Stay there.You chose him….bear the consequences.I think your courtship was too short.However, with wisdom and prayers and counselling you still have a great marriage.All the best.