SIGNS YOU ARE STILL MISSING YOUR EX – AND HOW TO DEAL WITH IT!

1. SOCIAL MEDIA LASHING: You trash talk him on twitter and Facebook.

2. OVERDRESSING AND OVERCOMPENSATING:
You dress up in hopes you will run into him and when you do see him, you make your life seem really awesome..because, obviously, you are better off without him and he should see what you are missing!

Yet, you have got to realize what you are missing in making him the center of your life.

3. YOU COMPARE EVERYONE TO HIM:
Even if you think you are ready to start dating again, every time you meet a new guy, you make a list of all the ways he doesn’t measure up to your ex. Once you are really over him, you will measure men on their own merits.

4. YOU HAVE NO INTEREST IN THAT HOT DUDE GIVING YOU THE EYE:
You have men throwing themselves at you left and right, eager to love the pain away. When you ex calls, however, you pick up right away.

5. YOU STILL CYBER STALK HIM:
The other day you while you wandering about Facebook, you noticed that a cute girl had left a flirtatious message on your ex wall. So you attempted to hack into her Facebook account, and scoured the Facebook pages of your ex’s mom, sister and grand mother for even the subtlest mention of either you or a new romance. I want you to know: This is unhealthy…and possibly illegal.

6. YOU ARE STILL HAVING SEX WITH YOUR EX:
You still meet to have sex. Ex sex isn’t always a terrible idea..but it usually is. If you have recently broken up, you can’t have sex and expect that you won’t remain emotionally involved. So, straighten up.

7. YOU STILL HABOUR THE (NOT SO) SECRET FANTASY THAT THE TWO OF YOU STILL HAVE A FUTURE TOGETHER:
And this misguided belief is keeping you from living life or at least giving anyone new a chance to love you. While no one can really know what the future holds, it’s best to remember that break ups happen for a reason..And often, that reason was a good one. If you are holding back on your future, it is likely that you are stuck in the past.

Going through a terrible relationship break up can appear so crushing. You might believe you will never ever get over them. Or that your life will never be the same again. Although those feelings are very real in the first place, there is no reason to believe that you can’t get over it and move on.

Begin with closure.When a relationship comes to a horrible end, particularly if you are the one that was dumped just about all people need and require closure. This means that you have acknowledged the reality that relationship is over and you are ready to go on. You need to say it out loud and in your mind that the relationship is finished and believe it. If you believe there is a chance that you will get back together with your ex you will never be able to go on with your life.

SHOULD I ACCEPT HIS PROPOSAL?

GEORGE ESSIEN ANSWERS YOUR QUESTION 149

My name is Itoro Effiong. I’m through with with my University education and I am presently working.The person who proposed marriage to me is doing his NYSC and just got a scholarship to go abroad for his Masters.He insists he wants to get married to me before going abroad. I love him, though.The issue is that this guy was actually sponsored by my parents through his University education. My parents know that we are close but don’t know of his intention to marry me before he goes for his Masters.

Please advice me on the kind of decision to make. I want to know the kind of decision to make in this case. Should I accept his proposal for marriage or allow him to go and come back?

ANSWER:

It is obvious that he loves you and wants to give you assurance that he is yours. It all depends on how much you love him. You may proceed with the marriage. At the same time, you may wish to tell him that you would wait for him. Afterall, the Masters program will not go beyond 1 or 2 years.

So pray about it. Which ever decision you make will end up being good, especially when you are sure he is the kind of man that you would want to settle with. All the best.

THE BEST OF SINGLES’ QUOTES BY GEORGE ESSIEN – PART 1

(1.) When a woman becomes a wife in attitude and character,HER HUSBAND SHOWS UP.The reason why most women are not married on time is because they are not yet wives; they are still girls.

(2.) Men marry wives,but sleep with girls.

(3). Don’t marry from where you are coming from; marry from where you are going to

(4). Don’t ignore the signs.Address them quickly.
Confrontation reveals character.It is the platform for the display of emotional maturity

(5). Don’t marry a ‘dutiful’ wife…..marry A FRIEND.

(6). God tests every relationship at the point of its motive.

(7). She WON’T GROW SLIMMER in the future.If your preference is for slim,sleek ladies, go for that.And if it is for fat, round ladies,go for that.That lady won’t add weight in the future…In fact, LOOK AT HER MOTHER AND YOU CAN DETERMINE HOW SHE WOULD LOOK LIKE PHYSICALLY

(8). Don’t marry anyone if you are NOT PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED to the person.
Don’t spiritualize everything.Physical chemistry is important TOO

(9). DON’T pray in the same room with your fiance(e).That is not being spiritual.That is foolishness.You will end up both having sex!There is a thin line between SPIRITUALITY and SEXUALITY.Both are intercourse.

(10). Avoid dating people who want you to handle their emotional issues. The moment you send yourself on a rescue mission that relationship is doomed for failure.

(11).When a man marries a GOOD WIFE, he is very happy;
When he marries a BAD WIFE, HE BECOMES A PHILOSOPHER
Be careful who you marry.

(12).If you are a lady past 30 and now desperately moving from one singles program to the other, I really don’t pity you. Your husband showed up in your 20s but he didnt look like it and you ignored him.No pity, girl.

(13).A man can love a woman and not have sex with her; and yet not love a woman and still ‘enjoy’ sex with her.
Not so with a woman. Most women have sex with men they love; or have sex with a man and then expect the man to ‘love’ them.

(14).Love is not just a feeling, it is a knowledge; a knowledge that grows over time. Feelings fluctuate and are not too dependable.If you are ever in doubt whether you love that person, give it time.Time reveals true love

(15).Remember that WIFE means

W – Wonderful
I – Investment
F – For
E – Enjoyment

(16).SELFISHNESS from either one of the couple is responsible for any sour relationship. Wherever or whenever there is a break up or divorce,check closely PRIDE played a major role.

(17).People who have been hurt,hurt others.People who have been loved ,love others

(18).The THREAT and FEAR of break up is more tormenting than the ACTUAL break up

(19).It’s foolishness to disconnect from your friends because you are in a relationship with someone.If the person takes a walk,what would you do without your friends?Man looking at his girlfriend having a headache sitting at a tab

(20).When peace is replaced with doubt in your heart concerning that relationship,then God is saying something.It’s time to pause and think.

(21).Love means many things.But one thing I know love isn’t is that love isnt uncertain

(22).Some people don’t deserve the love you give them.Give no person your heart, only your head until you are married.

(23).Don’t run away from confrontation. A confrontation will give you revelation. To walk away or to continue becomes clearer. Too much quarrel that ends with physical abuse is a danger sign. It is saying , ‘Quit!’

(24).Young man, don’t marry a woman that cannot COOK.

THE BEST OF SINGLES’ QUOTES BY GEORGE ESSIEN – PART 1

5 REASONS YOU SHOULD NOT SLEEP WITH A MARRIED MAN

(1) WHEN THE CHIPS ARE DOWN, HE’D GO FOR HIS WIFE & ABANDON YOU:
A man can love a woman and not have sex with her; and yet not love a woman and still ‘enjoy’ sex with her.How so stupid it is to believe that he is really yours!

(2)IF THE MARRIED WOMAN PRAYS FOR YOU, YOU WILL BE CURSED :
This is especially if the woman is faithful to God, if she never slept other women’s husbands. Her prayers get to God.Those prayers touch God.Some barren women’s issues are traceable to this grave sin.Some women are not married because of this or have unfaithful husbands because of this.

(3)WHEN YOU GET MARRIED SOMEONE ELSE WOULD SLEEP WITH YOUR OWN HUSBAND:

It is all a matter of sowing and reaping. Some bad girls already know this, that is why they rarely ever complain about what their spouse do…just that they would prefer that the man doesn’t let them know about the lady. Women who say, “All men cheat” are usually culprits. That is their own defensive way of saying “I shouldn’t care less because I know what I did to married men.”

(4)YOUNG WOMAN,YOU ARE DOING IT FOR THE MONEY.IT IS NOT FOR LOVE:
Or would you really sincerely say it isn’t? A particular lady said , “Well, married men know how to take care of women”. Is that so? Why should he take care of you and not his wife now that he has money?Is that fair?

(5)IF YOU GET PREGNANT, AND YOU KEEP IT, THE CHILD WILL STILL BE ILLEGITIMATE: How so sad. Many children suffer because of the stupidity of their mothers. I know of a number.

Be single but not stupid.

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